In this video I would like to share with you a sequence of four questions that are designed to help
you to get your clients to take complete responsibility for what they don't want.
What they do want the partner that they've played in gaining the current outcome that they're experiencing
in their life but then also determine the first step they need to take towards moving away from what
they don't want and moving towards what they do want it with me.
Sounds simple good.
Let's have a look at this.
To be honest with you you don't have to remember this stuff.
All right.
My intention in creating this whole section was to make it as easy for you to simply print off the worksheets
and use them as templates.
No.
The funny thing about life coaching and all these techniques and models them sharing with you is that
it doesn't matter how much you practice them you'll never get perfect but you will make them your own.
And over time you will get permanently better.
I saw this model that I'm sharing with you.
You don't have to repeat and regurgitate word for word as I'm speaking at times or as I've written it.
And incidentally in the additional material section there is yet another resource for you and what you
think in my goodness.
Kane there's absolutely loads a kind guy you are.
Well thanks very much.
Yeah I have quit these resources so that you don't have to write theirs.
I was setting up as a life coach.
I watch so many courses to so many programs I end up getting weighed down with so much information I
don't know what to do with it.
So this is why I am structuring this course in the way in which I'm structuring it.
We've looked at the heavy stuff first to get the foundations out of the way and this stuff here is kind
of just about building the walls get the roof on.
It's about getting your clients to actually take action and take full responsibility for themselves
which is kind of the very purpose of dress for question.
Instant breakthrough model.
No again any additional material section.
These four questions are literally on one worksheet so you can print it off and use it on your clients
right away.
Or you may want to reword that and reframe the questions in a way that with just fit better with the
approach that you take.
The first question that you want to be asking your client and again you're going to be using this model
if your client is just stuck.
They come at you.
They just don't know what area of life they want to focus on first.
You're using this model with this instant breakthrough model just to get them to look at one year of
life in which they have a problem that is both important and Argent.
So you're asking them to name specifically one area of life that they want to improve.
No they might come up with a few different areas we are going to have to insist for them just to focus
and name one area.
The one area of their life is going to be one of the seven men who I feel areas others find their life
balance work life balance work but we've already taken them through by now.
Anyway Im sure.
And once they've highlighted this one area or that you're really going to do is just counsel them for
a while and ask them to describe to you what this area of life is currently like for them.
Now this is going to give you the opportunity just to hear a little bit of their story without you getting
fully involved in looking into both the or the nitty gritty.
It's just about trying to put yourself in their shoes to feel what the problem might be like for them.
This is about you doing your best to empathically relate to the situation or the circumstance that you
are currently in.
It's about you put yourself in their shoes.
So once they've defined this one area the second question that you're going to be asking them is slightly
more confrontational because they are going to be talking about your problem or or a disease or an outcome
that they are currently experiencing that they want to be experiencing.
Right.
So you're going to Secondly be asking them what parts or what role they have played in bringing about
this outcome into their life.
No based upon their level of maturity Some clients are going to really react against the wire was my
fault it's everyone else's fault apart from mine.
And again I'm going to arja You've got to stay with this line of questioning.
It's important that you really get them to take responsibility for the part they've played.
Bringing about this unwanted outcome into their life because no one's perfect.
All right.
Bear in mind the thing that cannot get us in life is the actions and the behaviours and the attitudes
that we take the Bearing in mind.
We're always responding to the thoughts that we think and the feelings that we have.
So do remember that inside our revolution model how our thoughts determine our actions.
Sorry thoughts attachment or feelings are feelings to our actions our actions determine the outcomes
that we get in life.
Well that's going to be these outcomes that pose the greatest problems for us.
So we're really looking at here is the one I come.
That's in their life the one area that they want to improve which is going to be an outcome but then
were looking for them to take responsibility for the part that they've played in the process.
It doesn't matter how mind the part is that they take responsibility for.
It's just important that they take responsibility for something because this is part of their maturity
building process.
So the third question that you then want to be asking them once you've moved past two which can sometimes
be an interesting conversation.
By the way you will find that out for yourself at some point is then for them to get responsibility
to take responsibility for what it is that they do want.
So we know what of this they want to know we want them to shift their focus onto what they do once were
flipping their minds from a negative more nation moving away from what they don't want or into a positive
more Vission just focussing in on what it is that they do want all around.
This within itself can be such a huge prospective shift for your clients.
They can come to you with the biggest burden and the biggest weight on their shoulders.
They are focussing on what they don't want in their lives.
But as you know folks and what they do want the perspective changed.
They all leave your office or your studio or whatever it is that you go on to build.
Feeling like attention has literally been lifted off their shoulders.
So no you know what it is that they do want.
You can use the express planning model if you want or just ask in this one simple question What is the
first step.
You need to take today there's going to get you closer towards what it is that you want and know what
you've just helped them to do is shift their focus completely away from what they don't want and right
on what they do whilst taken full responsibility for the power they need to play and the progress that
they want to make in life if they want to move forward.
They've got to they've got to play an active role in this whole process.
So this is all about getting a full involvement and getting them to take responsibility for whatever
it is that they need to take responsibility for.
Know what you can do once you've asked these four questions if you can follow the one with the Express
planning model what's the second step.
What's the third step.
What's the fourth step.
But in the context of some coaching relationship Some clients are going to need any more than a starting
point.
So without them feeling like you're patronizing them in any way you want to be careful for that because
that can damage trust.
Some clients will just need the first step and then they'll be off like a shot or that clients might
need you to help coach the second and the third and the fourth step of them but by know you've got everything
you need to be able to start doing that anyway.
So this is a really cool model.
It's great for in a very very quick perspective shifts Alright someone can come to you with the biggest
problem crushed with their emotions and you can even use this as an icebreaker if you want.
In the context of any coaching session or any conversation one area of life that you want to make an
improvement in today what part have you played in bringing about this and this.
So even if really small sort of tell me no.
What is it that you actually want.
You know get them to flip flip the focus away from what they don't want and towards what they do.
And then finally what is the first step you need to take today to get closer towards one of is that
you fundamentally want life coaching.
As I've mentioned it doesn't have to be complicated and if you follow these templates that I'm sharing
with you I know that you're going to be able to get exactly the same results in other people's lives
as what I've got with the people that I've worked with in the past.
And just to be clear will not be in price for here it's not actually getting the results in other people's
lives it's just being facilitators that are helping them to grow and get the results they want for themselves
because.
This is a very empowering place to be.
So remember and downloads.
This framework of questions from Edition material section.
I look forward to seeing you again in the next video.